🎯 Quick Overview
Trailer
- Director: Sammi Cohen
- Genre: Comedy, Family, Drama
- Release year: 2023
- Runtime (length): 1h 43min
- IMDb rating: 5.9/10 (26K votes)
- Rotten Tomatoes: 72%
😅 Plot Summary – Badly Explained
Two best friends almost ruin their Bat Mitzvahs (and their friendship) because of a boy, proving that middle schoolers are just tiny adults with less impulse control.
🍿 You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah: Detailed Plot Synopsis
Best Friends and Bat Mitzvah Dreams
Stacy Friedman and Lydia Rodriguez Katz are inseparable best friends, both eagerly anticipating their Bat Mitzvahs. They envision elaborate celebrations and dream of sharing special moments, including dances with their mutual crush, Andy Goldfarb. Stacy’s aspirations for a ‘perfect’ party lead to clashes with her parents, Bree and Danny, who struggle to balance her desires with practicality. Stacy’s older sister, Ronnie, offers a supportive presence amidst the family dynamics.

Rivalry and Betrayal
An invitation to popular girl Kym Chang Cohen’s house sets the stage for a shift in the girls’ friendship. During an outing to a cliff jumping spot, Stacy attempts to impress Andy, but an embarrassing incident leads to ridicule. This event triggers Stacy’s anger when she perceives Lydia’s complicity in the laughter. The situation escalates as Lydia and Andy begin dating, fueling Stacy’s feelings of betrayal and sparking a rift between the two best friends.

Sabotage and Confession
Consumed by jealousy, Stacy engages in increasingly harmful actions. She spreads rumors about Lydia and sabotages an ‘entrance video’ intended for Lydia’s Bat Mitzvah. Despite her intentions, she ultimately hesitates to release the damaging video. Stacy’s attempts to win Andy’s affections continue, even leading to an awkward encounter during which they are caught by their teacher, Rabbi Rebecca. The situation culminates when the altered video is accidentally played at Lydia’s Bat Mitzvah, causing public humiliation and irreparably damaging their friendship.

⚠️ Spoilers and Ending Explained
🎬 Cast & Characters
- Stacy Friedman (Sunny Sandler): A young girl whose dreams of an epic Bat Mitzvah are threatened by middle school drama and a rift with her best friend.
- Lydia Rodriguez Katz (Samantha Lorraine): Stacy’s best friend whose relationship is strained by a shared crush and ensuing conflict.
- Andy Goldfarb (Dylan Hoffman): The popular boy who becomes the center of a rivalry between Stacy and Lydia.
- Danny Friedman (Adam Sandler): Stacy’s father who attempts to guide her through the challenges of growing up and her Bat Mitzvah preparations.
- Bree Friedman (Idina Menzel): Stacy’s mother who tries to support her daughter while navigating the complexities of family and tradition.
- Rabbi Rebecca (Sarah Sherman): A quirky and unconventional rabbi who provides guidance to Stacy as she prepares for her Bat Mitzvah.
💬 Memorable Quotes
- Rabbi Rebecca: “God is random.” – Said when Stacy asks her a question about bad/sad events.
- Stacy: “I want a party that shows who I am, but also who I’m going to be.” – Stacy explains to her parents her vision for an epic Bat Mitzvah that will set her up for the future.
- Stacy: “I want to call it!” – Upset after a maxi-pad floating beside her while she is trying to impress Andy.
💰Box Office
- Budget: $27,000,000
- Domestic Gross: None
- Worldwide Gross: None
💥 You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah Reviews
Personal Review
Okay, so I went into this expecting a typical Adam Sandler goof-fest, but it was actually kind of heartwarming! Sunny Sandler did a great job, and I found myself actually caring about Stacy and Lydia’s friendship. The Bat Mitzvah scenes were super fun, and it brought back so many awkward middle school memories. Plus, seeing Adam Sandler playing a (relatively) normal dad was a nice change of pace. I definitely teared up a little at the end! If you’re looking for a lighthearted, feel-good movie, give this one a shot.
- Who would enjoy:
- “Teenagers”
- “Fans of coming-of-age stories”
- “Viewers interested in Jewish culture”
- “Adam Sandler fans”
- “Families looking for a lighthearted movie night”
- Content warnings ⚠:
- “Teen romance themes”
- “Mild language”
- “Middle school drama”
- “Some potentially embarrassing situations”
Professional Reviews
- Variety: “A sweet and relatable coming-of-age story that benefits from a strong cast, especially Sunny Sandler, who shines in her leading role. While the plot is predictable, the film’s charm and humor make it an enjoyable watch.
- The Hollywood Reporter: “Though occasionally veering into saccharine territory, ‘You Are So Not Invited…’ offers a genuine glimpse into the world of modern Bat Mitzvahs. The film’s strength lies in its ensemble, with Adam Sandler delivering a more understated performance than usual.
- IndieWire: “The film struggles to find a unique voice within the crowded teen comedy landscape. While the performances are earnest, the storyline is derivative and lacks the emotional depth to truly resonate.
Audience Reactions
The movie perfectly captures the awkwardness and drama of middle school friendships.: Viewers praised the film’s relatability and its portrayal of the challenges faced by young girls navigating friendships and growing up.
Sunny Sandler’s performance was a standout, proving she has a future in acting.: Many viewers were impressed with Sunny Sandler’s portrayal of Stacy, citing her natural charisma and comedic timing.
Overall Consensus: A generally well-received coming-of-age comedy, praised for its relatability, charm, and strong performances, particularly from Sunny Sandler. While the plot may be predictable, the film offers an enjoyable and heartwarming experience for viewers of all ages.
Awards
🛠️ Behind the Scenes
- “This is not the first time that Adam Sandler has worked with his daughters, Sunny and Sadie Sandler. However, this is their acting debut with him in a supporting role.”
- “The movie was filmed in Toronto, Ontario, Canada.”
- “The movie features Adam Sandler’s wife and two daughters, Jackie, Sadie and Sunny Sandler.”
- “Much of the humor in the film is based on observational comedy about the life of modern Jewish American teens preparing for their Bat and Bar Mitzvahs, family and friendship.”
🖥️ How to Watch You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah?
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah is currently streaming exclusively on Netflix. While there are no options to rent or purchase the film digitally on platforms like Prime Video or Apple TV, a Netflix subscription is the sole requirement to enjoy this coming-of-age comedy.

🎥 Similar Movies
If you enjoyed You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah, you might like these similar films:
- Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret. (2023): Deals with similar coming-of-age themes for young girls, focusing on the challenges and changes of adolescence.
- Eighth Grade (2018): Captures the awkwardness and anxieties of middle school with a focus on a young girl navigating social media and self-discovery.
- Blockers (2018): A coming-of-age comedy that focuses on teenage relationships, prom night, and overprotective parents.
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🎧 Soundtrack
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah features a captivating soundtrack that enhances the movie’s atmosphere and emotional impact. Here are some notable tracks:
You can find the complete soundtrack on Amazon Music and Apple Music.
🤨 FAQ
The movie is currently streaming exclusively on Netflix.
Yes, the movie is based on the young adult novel of the same name by Fiona Rosenbloom.
Sunny Sandler plays Stacy Friedman, the main character, and Sadie Sandler plays Ronnie Friedman, Stacy’s older sister.
The movie revolves around two best friends, Stacy and Lydia, whose friendship is threatened by a boy and middle school drama leading up to their Bat Mitzvahs.
🔥 Bonus Content
The pain on her face 💔 You are so not invited to my bat mitzvah #shorts
Ouch, you can really feel the betrayal in this scene! See Stacy’s reaction to something truly heartbreaking. You might even tear up a little…or maybe that’s just me?
Stacy & Lydia // You are so not invited to my bat Mitzvah
Ever wonder why everyone’s obsessed with Stacy and Lydia’s friendship? This compilation shows all their best (and worst) moments. Prepare for some serious best-friend drama!
The Most Embarrassing Thing That Could Happen…
Want to see someone else’s reaction to the movie’s most awkward scene? This reaction video is hilarious and totally relatable! I was cringing right along with him!
What exactly is a bat mitzvah?
Not sure what a Bat Mitzvah is? Don’t worry, this video breaks it down in a fun and easy way! Understanding the tradition makes the movie even better, trust me.
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